So how can we get through to them?
They may even still want their way – imagine being in the middle of a task and someone comes along and picks you up and takes you away from what you were completing.
It’s safe to say that most of you would be incredibly frustrated! I know that I’m often called when in the middle of a task – I’m seldom ready to stop at the drop of a hat, so I don’t. I ask for some time to complete what I’m doing before I am ready to do what I am asked to – unless it is an emergency of course!
1. Explain your point
2. Don't lie to your child!
Teach them to be truthful.
3. Know what your child responds to
4. Be patient
5. Communicate the benefits of being obsessive
I’m currently listening to the book “The 10X Rule” – I didn’t expect to hear anything about parenting in this book, however, I was blown away by one of the chapters.
Grant Cardone talks about how society does it’s best to force us to be average or normal. It convinces us that being obsessive is a bad thing. When in reality, if we attacked things we cared about with a level of obsession, then we would manage to get things done to an extraordinary level.
Having an obsessive personality doesn’t have to be a bad thing, especially if it is channelled in a positive direction. I use mine to learn new things I’m passionate about.
6. Body language
7. Talk to them, not at them
You could even ask them how they feel about the situation.
8. Actively engage with your child, don't be passive
If your child wants to talk to you about something, that something may well be important to them.
9. Be firm but fair
10. Lead by example!
Following the above 10 tips will make communicating with your child a cinch!
If we take the time to explain why and give them reasons to follow our instructions, these two things in themselves will be super helpful.
By employing these strategies, as well as leading by example and speaking to them on a level will make the world of difference. Remember, it is us who has to teach them the rules of communication.
Good luck on your journey! I know you’ll do splendidly!